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February 13, 2010

true love waits

Filed under: club love — rxpaola1925 @ 7:04 am

Love for us as humans is difficult to define.  We know that God is love and that his gift of his only Son Jesus on the cross was the greatest sacrifice of love we will ever know, but we may often wonder, how we can understand this on a human level and how it relates to what we know and feel as “romantic” love or even “friendship” love.  The truth is there are many different kinds of and levels of love, all of which we must learn to feel and understand as we grow older.  And to be honest, the older you get the more you understand it,  wouldn’t you agree?

Were all been living in a dream that somehow a prince will come and save us from longing and bareness of our life, that he’s just “around the corner” taking his time to be near me. On the other hand, maybe there’s isn’t someone for everyone. There has always been a dream of someone.

I have always dreamed of someone to grow old with. Someone who will be there to share my success and when I’m in my lowest point in life. A life long friend who will support me, encourage me to grow on my own identity and shower me with compliments in times when I do not believe in myself. A special someone who will hold my hand and will sit right next to me in silence, just savoring the day together.

At the end of the day and as another day unfolds, I always have a silent prayer that somehow, somewhere along the way my prince will finally make his way to me  and take all my fears, uncertainties and longing. In the midst of the night, I always wake up from a dream but I always end up alone in my bed, realizing my prince still hasn’t come.

As to my dream of valiant prince and romantic escapades, I sometimes still splurge to the idea that somehow/somewhere there’s this prince who’ll wait for me in vain and will love me unconditionally.  But for now, all I can do is to hope and to wait for my prince. I have found and lost love through the years of my life, there came a time my mind told me to stop loving but my heart says continue searching. I am not closing my doors nor windows for hope of a real prince, though love fails me a thousand times it wont hinder me to believe that he’s on his way to me. When that time comes, I am finally home.


everything happens for a reason

Filed under: club love — rxpaola1925 @ 6:56 am

Sometimes, people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know these people maybe, but when you look eyes with them, they will affect your life in some profound way and sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or hurt.

Everything happens for a reason, nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck, illness, injury, love, lost moments of greatness and sheer stupidity all occur or test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere, safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet affect your life. The success and downfalls that you experience can create who you are and the bad experience can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you or break your heart forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally not because they love you, but also because you love them.

The Art of Letting Go(time heal all wounds)

Filed under: club love — rxpaola1925 @ 6:50 am

One of the reason why people get sentimental is because memories they had are the only things that don’t change when everything else does. There are things in life that you can’t hold on forever no matter how much you fight for it. Destiny at times may not always be good, it tends to be playful. When you meet someone you learned to love, you thought that it was destiny who made you’re path’s cross. But what if making your paths cross is just a part of the game that playful destiny create? Making you realize in the end that the person you thought that was destined for you wasn’t really meant to stay..
but only destined to make you feel love and leave you when you’ve already fallen.

Its not easy to state a reason when you decide to leave your love. Some might think its just an excuse, some might not actually believe,some will blame you, some might even be mad at you. What they don’t see is the fact that, it hurts you even more to hurt someone who doesn’t deserve to be hurt specially when you can’t actually state the reason why you have to leave.

You can never own something that was never yours, so lets stop gripping on things we expect to last forever. Nothing last forever, forever is a lie, everything is a transitory. So while you have something in your hand, put in mind that it’s just borrowed. So that someday when its gone, it wont take you eternity just to let it go. When your feelings get strong for some one, its always wise to stop for a while and give your heart  a time to breathe. A time to use your mind to weigh the situation based on the reason not on emotion, because the saddest thing that can happen, is when one fall in love while the other want’s nothing more than friendship.

Love can sometimes be magic, but magic can sometimes be an illusion.
There are times when I wish that I was limited to certain emotions, so that I’ll never have to experience pain never feel betrayed or disappointed and never get my fragile heart broken. But the same thing means I’ll never know how it feels to love and be love in return. The thought of it kind of scares me, to have a heart that’s whole but numb, or a hearts that’s broken but real.
Someday we’ll all be looking back to those days we learned to love, get hurt cry and fight. Maybe when that time comes well be laughing at our old dumb selves, realizing how stupid we are to stand up for things we knew weren’t really meant for us. But i guess learning takes time, and mistakes makes one’s journey fun. LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE, LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND. So lets live, love and take what ever pain it brings though its hard to wait around for something that you know will never happen, its harder to stop when you know its everything you’ve always wanted. Goodbyes may hurt so bad but time heals all wound maybe not right at the moment but time will come and you’ll just realized that you’ve already moved on. Saying goodbye doesn’t mean its the end, it may be the start of something better so just be glad about everything that happens and be thankful.


Filed under: club love — rxpaola1925 @ 5:42 am

When you love someone and the relationship has to end in any reason that hurt you both, it has to end right at that moment and you have to accept it and let go. You don’t have to ask questions why it happened; you don’t have to look for answers because you will see none. Things could get ugly if you insist looking for it. Don’t try to change the course of fate, if it’s meant to end then it has to end and let go.

Respect whatever he thinks about you, no need to talk or settle things with him, it only makes you so cheap and get hurt more. Parting ways is painful but you have to take it. Don’t try to end it well if there’s no future in ending it well. Just take the situation as it is and let go. You cannot patch the holes and loopholes that happened to both of you. There will always be grudges, blaming and comparison with each other. It’s the way it is; its how letting go is. There could never be a nicer way to do it, but to let go and accept it. If you are a person who wants to end everything in a nice way, this is not the time, only time could tell if all wounds have healed, things will fall in their right places at the right time. As the old adage goes “Time will heal all wounds” as old as it is, it is still true even to this time.

Another thing about ending a relationship, there should be no regrets for what has happened, accept it and try to let go and free your self. No matter what you did even if it brought you pains, there should be no regrets because after all you have loved the person. Be glad if you were given a chance to say it and be able to free your self. Yes, letting go is painful but it gives a sense of freedom, knowing you’ve said it “no regrets” and you’ve been true to yourself regardless of what happened and what he feels for you. He may have regrets and hate you but you have to respect that, it is his right.

When it comes to relationships, it doesn’t matter who is right or who is wrong. Yes, you will go through the process of fighting for your rights because you think you are right but at the end it really doesn’t matter. Relationship lasts because it’s meant to last, it will end if it’s not meant to last and you have to let go.

Don’t do stupid things, you cannot win him back. You cannot get his sympathy. If he doesn’t feel for you, no matter how hard you try he will not care. Don’t compromise who you really are regardless of the situation and the pain you are into. Sometimes pain can push you to do something which is not within your values, try hard to keep your sanity and learn to let go. Nothing good will come out of it that’s why its’ called stupid. Yes, he hurt you in every possible situation, but it’s not enough reason to trade for who you really are. You have to get a good grip of who you are and your values, because I tell you in this stage you will need every good traits you have if you are dealing with so much pain. If you don’t let go, pains could deceive you and could push you to do things you are not suppose to do. Always think that if you let go and succeed to endure the pains, you will come out a better person and looking back you know you haven’t done anything bad to anybody. That’s why it’s good to end the relationship at once if it needs to end and don’t cling on it, you have to let it go.

When it comes to cheating, try not to blame yourself and learn to let go. You want answers why you’ve been cheated because you have this insecurity of being replaced, but the truth is, there is no answer. Even in the best of relationships “forever” is rare. When you accept to love someone you have to accept too that you will get hurt. It’s not your fault that he cheated you, cheating is a human nature especially with males who cannot take a good grip of their faithfulness when faced with lust. But men with a good grip of their character and values will find themselves shy away from it because their love for someone is greater than their lust and that’s what separate boys from men. Boys’ cheats but men don’t. You can be 45 but still a boy and you can be 18 but can be called a man. Character and not age makes a man.

In getting hurt, women usually think, they are the ones who are always greatly hurt in most of the relationships they have. I often wonder how men appear so cold and make it looks like everything is easy even with heartaches, but I guess men and women always have different ways of dealing with heartaches. But hurt or pains has nothing to do with gender, its about love, those who love the most, cry the most and get hurt the most. Don’t be sorry that you cry the most or get hurt the most, be glad that that you were able to give most of the love in your relationship. If you love someone accept that you will get hurt too. And when it’s time to let go, just accept it and be glad that you have loved with all your heart.

Lovers to friends – don’t put too much effort in it. It rarely happens; it’s one in a million. If yours is that one in a million, it will still not happen right away, it needs time. If lovers have a good foundation of friendship before they became lovers and the friendship becomes cloudy because of too much hurt and unusual happenings, after the rain and the clouds are all clear, the sun will shine and if there is really a solid friendship, maybe it could happen-lovers to friends, but don’t count on it as I said it rarely happens.

When it’s time to let go, give yourself time to heal, cry if you need to, and grieve if you have to. It’s the process of healing, but don’t stop there, get a life it’s not the end of the world. Yes life is tough, but you have to embrace it, live it because it’s your life. It may not be a beautiful life but you have to own it, it’s yours and you can make it beautiful. Besides, God will not give you things you cannot handle, if He has faith in you that you can handle the life handed to you, you have to have some faith in yourself too that you can get through tough times. Let go, set him free, set your self free and move on. If he is really meant for you, time will tell and your paths will meet again.

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